Is porno-hangman a joke?

I have had fidelity issues with my wife for a while now. Anyways, she lost our child (or as I recently found out when she was pissed at me, possibly some random mexicans who raped her, but she loved, and had a relationship, but just recently raped her again.) while she went home to Japan for her grandfathers funeral. When she got back about eight months later (due to visa issues) she began "flipping" out. Making comments about killing herself etc.

Anyways... She gave me a good enough scare to have to call the police on her. They caught her lying about why she was carrying a hose around and why I called the police on her, eventually they ended up taking her to the hospital. That night at the hospital she ended up meeting some fellow mental patient and they exchanged numbers (I ended up hearing a voice mail of hers where the guy states that he is reading the letter she wrote to him in Japanese over and over, even though he could not understand it).

Fast forward to a little more recently. Apparently they have been hanging out, and during a visit that I let her know about beforehand, she was nowhere to be found when I entered the apartment. When I walked in I noticed on the coffee table there was some various food items that she never eats, and a game of hangman played on the back of some of her school notes. It read the following, "FUCK-ME". To make things even worse there is a box of condoms on the table. Albeit unopened, but she knows I have many of my own condoms, so she would not buy them for me.

Upon confrontation she says she bought them for us, and attempts to whore me out by asking to "fuck her". I let in, but that isn't the point. When I confront her about the hangman she says she did it with a girlfriend, and it was a joke. My first response was, what kind of fucking joke is that? It's not funny by any stretch of imagination, especially when combined with a pack of condoms sitting next to it. A week later and she admits that he did it, but it was still a joke, and he bought the condoms.

This guy then contacts me via MySpace and tells me that if I want to know what is going on to give him a call. I call the guy, and he gives me these stories of her fucking around with mexicans and cheating on even him. The guy makes me promise not to tell her, but I do, I mean I could give two shits, I just wanted to hear what he had to say. She shows me her phone later that same day, and he was messaging her apologies and telling her that he only did it because he thought he was ready to love again. God only knows what is going on between them now.

After the VA Tech shootings, she gives me a call like a day later and tells me that this kid is in the hospital again, because he made some joke about it at work.

Lord christ, I hate hangman, and I h _ t _ h _ r.